Prioritizing Motherhood. With Erica Komisar

Prioritizing Motherhood with Erica Komisar

Let’s be real. We know in our mama’s heart that staying home with our children is important because they actually need us to. Today, my guest Erica Komisar confirms this instinct we have as mothers and why it is critical to prioritize Motherhood.

What We Talked About

  • Understanding why the first three years are critical for our child’s long-term mental health
  • Why are daycare centers not equipped to support our children’s attachment needs
  • What is “consistency of care,” and why is it essential in the early years?
  • What are other critical stages for our children’s mental health?
  • The important revolution that needs to happen for the health of families

Things to Remember

“There is no parenting without presence.”

“Without guilt, our conscience isn’t working.”

“The foundation of resilience is that feeling of security in the first three years.”

“Mothers are very attuned to babies’ distress.”

“If you are present for your children in the first three years, you’re encouraging a tremendous amount of neural connections to be formed.”

“Your babies are not resilient; your babies are incredibly vulnerable, and they need you.”

― Erica Komisar

“There are many who hold, as I do, that the most important period of life is not the age of university studies, but the first one, the period from birth to the age of six. For that is the time when man’s intelligence itself, his greatest implement, is being formed. But not only his intelligence; the full totality of his psychic powers.” ― Dr. Maria Montessori

Additional Resources

Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters

Margaret Mahler

Let’s Continue the conversation…

Now, Erica and I want to hear from you!

Do you have a strong feeling that staying home would be best for your child? Listen in to find out why your hunch is correct and critical.

Remember, The Art of Parenting was created for you. If you have any suggestions for experts, I should have on the show or parenting questions you want to be answered. Please let me know here.

More About My Guest

Erica Komisar, LCSW, is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. 

A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant who offers parenting workshops in clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings. 

She contributes to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Daily News. She is also a Contributing Editor to The Institute for Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. 

Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little the Sky Isn’t Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety.

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